Rochelle & Ben
We want to know your story; how did you meet?
Ben and I have known each other for around 14 years. We met when we were in our early teens at a local carnival. We dated on a couple of occasions over the years but it never seemed to be the right time for either of us. We bumped into each other for the final time in 2012 at a mutual friend’s party and we have been together since.
How did he propose?
Ben whisked me off for a 2 night stay to Newcastle and we stayed in a gorgeous penthouse apartment. Although it’s so close to were we live, it has always been one of my favourite cities. I had no idea he was going to propose though, he just kept saying it was a treat for how hard i’d worked within my business – especially over the busy festive period. As it was a few days before Christmas, he had small gifts wrapped up which he gave me throughout the days while we were there. On the second night we were getting ready to go out for a meal to the Baltic Flour Mill (Six). He told me to open the gift on the table which was a set of Swarovski champagne flutes. When I turned round he was down on one knee and I was gobsmacked! Little did I know the flutes were for a toast, and the meal was for our engagement. I liked how confident he was that I’d say yes! He proposed with the LeVian ring I’d pointed out around a year prior, I had said If I ever got engaged I would want something like it – rose gold, distinctive with coloured stones. It still baffles me how he remembered, as it was only said in passing!
How did you know that your Ian Stuart Dress was the right choice for your big day?
I knew I wanted to be an Ian Stuart Bride as soon as I laid eyes on his designs. Run of the mill dresses just didn’t appeal to me and I love how unique his style is. Whether they are your taste or not; each of his dresses are timeless and a work of art in their own right, nobody can deny that. The closest stockist to where we live is Y.A.P Bridal Boutique in Newcastle. At my appointment I tried on only four of Ian’s gowns and I loved them all, but there was just something missing from first three I tried. The final dress I tried was La Fayette. Before my bridal consultant (Danni) got the zip half way up, I burst into tears. I knew I had found my dress instantly. When Danni pulled back the curtain for my Mam and Auntie to see, they both had the exact same reaction! I didn’t think the ‘bridal moment’ was a real thing, but it clearly was for me. I opted for the matching cathedral veil and I purchased my headdress from here also. The three of us had the most magical time at this boutique. I also decided to have the dressing experience that Y.A.P offers. The girls came out to dress me and my bridal party on the day and honestly, I couldn’t have managed without them. I would highly recommend it to anyone, even more so if if you have a big dress.
Was there a theme/colour theme at your wedding?
The theme for the wedding seemed to evolve as time went by. We knew we wanted something glamorous as it reflects our personal taste both as individuals and as a couple. I’ve always loved really bright, punchy colours and I was getting so bored of seeing the usual anaemic colour schemes in bridal magazines. When I looked at La Fayette, I saw mix of say – Marie Antoinette & Southern Belle. So I decided to run with that… you could say the theme was very much centred around the dress. The only way I could describe our theme is – Parisian Sophistication and New Orleans Colour Pop, with a hint of British Etiquette. The fabulous Kat from ‘The Whole Sch-Bang’ in Gateshead created the full decor including the flowers, our guests were simply blown away. They said it was so different to anything that they’d seen before.
Did you incorporate any specific traditions in your wedding, such as ‘something old, something new, borrowed and blue’?
Although the wedding itself was quite a modern affair. We still tried to do all of the usual wedding traditions. Myself and Ben stayed in separate houses the night before on Rockliffe grounds and didn’t see each other till I walked down the aisle towards him. My something old was also something borrowed, my mam’s white handkerchief that belonged to my great grandma Annie. It is over 60 years old has an A embroidered on it. This was so relevant with my new surname being Anderson and was perfect for dabbing away the few tears I had on the day. Most of the things bought for the wedding were new and my Aquazurra Bridal Booties had powder blue soles. My Dad also placed sixpence in my shoe for the ceremony.
Do you have any advice to share with women who are about to embark on this incredible journey of planning their wedding and selecting their wedding dress?
Just try to enjoy it as much as you can. I spent far too much time stressing about minuscule details, that on the day I didn’t even notice. In hindsight, planning a wedding is very hard work – especially along with all of your usual daily tasks. I found it especially difficult trying to juggle running a house and two businesses, whilst also planning our dream wedding. Constant email threads, phone calls and questionnaires from suppliers became the bane of my life, my only regret is that I found it more of a hindrance rather than looking at the bigger picture. They were all just trying to make sure the day as seamless as possible; which is what it was. Now I can’t believe it’s all over and would love to have the planning time back and re-live the day again. Select your suppliers wisely and most importantly, trust your venue. They will have likely done hundreds if not thousands of weddings before yours and they know exactly what they are doing. Oh and delegate… if someone can help you, let them!
With regard to choosing the dress, try and look at it more like the dress choosing you. You need to feel utterly beautiful & absolutely unstoppable in your gown while being the best possible version of yourself. Ian Stuart Bride certainly does that…